I would like you to think about your best friend for a moment. We all have friends, a couple close friends, some good friends and a lot you’d simply consider friends. The point is that some friends are closer than others.
I admit that I haven’t always put a high value on friendships. I guess because although I knew that a “good friend is very valuable”, I failed to apply it to my life and put the effort into them that’s necessary.
The bottom line is that for any good friend, you have to take the time to get to know them, there are no shortcuts. Good friends require these key ingredients: love, time, consistency, sacrifice, openness and patience.
Let’s take those ingredients, love, time, consistency, sacrifice, openness, and patience and discuss how these apply to our relationship with God.
This is God’s side, what He contributes:
1 John 3: 16 We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters.
Matthew 28: 20b “And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
James 1: 17 “Whatever is good and perfect comes to us from God above, who created all heaven’s lights. Unlike them, He never changes or casts shifting shadows”
John 3: 16 “For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.
John 15: 15 I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me.
1 Timothy 1: 16 But God had mercy on me so that Christ Jesus could use me as a prime example of his great patience with even the worst sinners. Then others will realize that they, too, can believe in him and receive eternal life.
In light of these attributes, it seems like God would make a pretty good friend, doesn’t it? He has all the qualities of a great friend. But there’s the catch to sustaining a good relationship, and we all know what that is, it needs to be reciprocated. A few verses come to mind:
James 4: 8 Come close to God, and God will come close to you.
2 Chronicles 15: 2 Whenever you seek him, you will find him. But if you abandon him, he will abandon you.
What does this tell us? It tells us that the ball is in our court! He called us, so it’s our turn to call Him back. Some friendships dissolve over a friend not calling the other one back, but God is not like a fickle “friend”.
Matthew 7: 8 For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.
Don’t you love God’s “open door” policy?
This tells me that if God is not a good friend of mine, then it’s not His fault, but mine. It’s up to me to be proactive and deliberate about getting to know Him more:
6 I want you to show love,
not offer sacrifices.
I want you to know me
more than I want burnt offerings.
When this sunk into my pea-sized brain, it was so liberating. I can simply focus on getting to know Him and not worry so much about messing up. When I sin, I know that I can come back to Him and that He will welcome me. Our relationship is not based on my performance or abilities.
What will you do to improve your friendship with Him? Maybe you’re “good buddies” and reaping the rewards of His company. Maybe you are just getting to know Him and taking things slow.
Regardless of where you’re at, I encourage you to make Him your best friend. I can assure you, He wants to be your best friend and He should be. Get to know Him by reading His Word, talk to Him in prayer consistently, and hang out with others that have made Him their best friend.
I’ll leave you with just one more verse:
31 Don’t envy violent people
or copy their ways.
32 Such wicked people are detestable to the Lord,
but he offers his friendship to the godly.
Will you befriend God?
“Dear Lord, I have good friends and I have not so good friends. None of my friends are as loving and as available as you are. Help me to get to know you more so that I know what it truly means to call you my friend. Thank you for your patience and calling me in the first place. In Jesus name, amen.”